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We all want our kids to grow into independent, thoughtful, and resilient people. We want them to find their voice, trust themselves, and contribute to the world around them. But the path to independence isn't always clear. Our kids need us, biologically and emotionally. They need connection, co-regulation, protection, and attunement. They need to know we’ll be there when things get hard. But if we push them toward independence too quickly, they may internalize the message: “I shouldn’t need anyone.” They learn to armor up. To go it alone. To disconnect. And if we hold on too tightly, never letting them stretch or stumble, they may struggle to trust themselves. They may feel safest only when we're near, unsure how to make decisions or self-soothe without our lead. It’s a delicate balance: How do we stay connected and empower them to stand on their own? It begins with trust. Trusting in their capacity to learn. Trusting in our presence when they fall. And trusting that the goal isn’t to shape them into who we want them to be, but to support them in becoming more of who they already are.

Picture this: you’re at the playground. Your child suddenly throws sand in another child’s face. The other child cries. Your friend looks worried. And you freeze. Conflict everywhere: – Between the kids. – Between you and your friend. – Between your values and your panic. You tell yourself you need to get it right, and fast. Discipline your child, protect your friend’s kid, and show the strangers around you that you’ve got this. No wonder it feels overwhelming. In our rush to fix things, we often move straight into damage control: Blaming. Apologizing too quickly. Skipping over the feelings altogether. But when we skip the feelings, we skip the wisdom too… for ourselves and our kids.

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